I Believe"Believe in love's infinite journey, for it is your own, for you are love. Love is life." Rumi
About Lana Cole
Meet me—I am Lana Cole, a licensed Marriage and Family therapist, practicing in the city of Orange in California.
I specialize in relationship counseling, working with distressed couples in conflict who argue with each other frequently without a “serious” reason; growing apart, having difficulties in expressing their feelings and concerns; losing or having lost romance and intimacy; having problems with trust and infidelity, or lack of understanding in general; couples having very different core values; arguing about financial issues, spending habits, and family financial goals.
I help couples and individuals gain certainty in the future of their relationships, understand if their partner is right for them; couples hurting from the trauma of their past; individuals who are willing to improve their relationship but their partner is not.
I work with any couple or individual whether they are married or dating, gay or straight, regardless of their cultural or ethnical background.
I also help people suffering from anxiety, including panic attacks, phobias, social anxiety, high stress at work or elsewhere.
Prior to becoming a therapist, I was a linguist, a teacher, and a manager of a private language school. It was a great experience, and it is still helping me to connect to people from different ethnic, cultural, and socioeconomic backgrounds.
I have always liked helping people, and people used to talk to me about their problems. Then I decided to become a therapist, so that I could dedicate myself entirely to helping people in achieving a happier, more rewarding life.
I have an MA degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Alliant International University in Irvine, CA (School of Professional Psychology). Before opening my private practice, I worked for several years in a non-profit agency, where I acquired substantial clinical experience counseling individuals, couples, groups, and families.
I am constantly improving my skills through continuing education in many areas, including Gottman couples’ therapy training, workshops on human sexuality, conflict resolution techniques, phobias, anxiety, stress, and more.
I love travelling, enriching my experiences in understanding different cultures, visiting fascinating new locations, indulging in new cuisines, music styles, and art. I have travelled to approximately 30 countries, and I feel it helps me in my work tremendously, broadening my horizons.
I love reading, being a member and a founder of a book club. I enjoy live theater of different genres, including drama, opera, musicals, shows, and ballet. I love different styles of dancing, hiking, walking on a beach enjoying a sunset, swimming in warm seas, and yoga.
I am also a writer of fiction, having recently published my first novel in 2016 under the pen name of Vanessa Star “One Fateful Summer.” It is a travel thriller that takes place in the Mediterranean isle of Cyprus, a very beautiful and romantic locale. It is full of complicated and interesting romantic relationships.
Lana Cole Success Stories
Asking a "Miracle Question" made a difference
Couples in crisis
This couple has been coming for three months, periodically getting better and then again engaging in their power game.more
Last week I saw them sitting in my waiting room as far away from each other as possible. They avoided looking at each other. The first part of the session it felt to me there was nothing left for me to do in order to shake them out of their on-going fight for control. Then I asked the "Miracle Question". I said: "Close your eyes and imagine, just imagine that you wake up tomorrow and all of a sudden you don't have anything to argue about. Describe to me a day like that in detail."
And all of a sudden their whole demeanor changed. They took turns in describing a day of a peaceful and joyful life together.
When they were leaving, they were smiling and holding hands.
The following morning I received this email from the husband:
"Good Morning Lana,
I wanted to say thank you for the counseling session last night. You really
made a difference."