The 6 Golden Rules For Going Down On A Woman (And Driving Her WILD)

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Rule #1: Every vagina is different

Giving a woman oral sex is wonderful. But there have only been two partners in my life who have known how to do cunnilingus successfully (even though I have been assured that others know what they’re doing). So, from a woman, here are some basic do’s and don’ts that everyone needs to know about giving cunnilingus.

1. Do NOT repeat what you see in a porno.


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That is all engineered for TV, not real life. Really great oral sex on a woman looks nothing like what you see in a movie. The only exception is lesbian porn — in that case, take notes.

2. Every single vagina is different.

Every single one. What worked on one will not work on another and what worked on the same one last week will likely not work as well this week. That’s all due to hormones.

3. Do not ask her if “that feels good,” as this sets you both up for failure.


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Instead, show her moves that are fast or slow and ask which one feels better. This way you both can effectively communicate your way to better oral sex.

4. Let the tension build.

Start from the top with non-genital contact and move to erogenous zones all over her body — both front and back. This does two things: first, it allows her to relax. And secondly, relaxation equals safety and safety equal WAY better sex.

5. Be enthusiastic.


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Let her know how much you like it, you want to do it, tell her how good she tastes. Afterward, tell her how much you enjoyed it.

6. And most importantly, be present.

All the technique in the world won’t help you if you’re not into what you’re doing. Sometimes your mind may wander but bring your focus back to her. If your erection wanes, no big deal. It’s normal for arousal to move through different stages. The important thing is to pay attention to her every moan, sigh, and move of her hips.

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